Monday, May 4, 2009

Cheesy Chat Up Lines

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Just a quick one today on Cheesy Chat Up Lines ... don't use them! Cheesy chat up lines are lines that once were cool and that some people don't realise have had their day.

A typical line with cheese layers a plenty would be:
  • Is your father a thief? Because someone stole the stars from the sky and put them in your eyes.
Once upon a time (around the 1980's) this was a good line, but not any more.

Think you might be using a little too much cheddar? Then check out our top 10 Cheesy Chat Up Lines now!

Sunday, September 28, 2008

Dirty Chat Up Lines

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For some reason "dirty chat up lines" is a reasonably popular search on Google! Which is surprising as you are unlikely to succeed when approaching a woman with a line such as:
"The only thing I want between our relationship is latex!"
So why the fascination with dirty chat up lines? The simple answer is that they are among the funnier ones out there, and, surprisingly, funny chat up lines can be very effective as women find humor in a man a very attractive characteristic.

Dating guru David DeAngelo's dating advice advocates a "Cocky Funny" approach to chatting up women. His idea is to be funny in a way that slightly teases the woman or reverses the normal situation. Now dirty chat up lines don't automatically fall into the realm of cocky funny, but have the same result by demonstrating confidence and humour at the same time. So they can in fact work when delivered with confidence and a twinkle in the eye.

One of my favourite dirty chat up lines is:
"I'd walk a million miles for one of your smiles ... and even farther for that thing you do with your tongue."
And I have actually used it with success and failure in equal quantity. When it succeeds it can succeed extremely well.

However, the art of the chat up line is not to build instant attraction with a woman - that is typically the third stage (1. Open, 2. Build acceptance, 3. Build attraction, 4. Close) - the art of the chat up line is simply to not get rejected. A good opening will get you into conversation and allow you to enter the next stage of building acceptance 90% of the time. With a 50% success rate on dirty chat up lines, even when delivered well, my recommendation is to steer clear of them.

If you really, really want to give dirty chat up lines ago, we have collected together a list of the top 10 dirty chat up lines for you.

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Chat Up Lines and Body Language

"It ain't what you say it's the way that you say it" goes the saying and when it comes to chat up lines this holds true. Albert Mehrabian, an early pioneer of body language research in the 1950's, found that the total impact of a message is about 7% verbal (words only), 38% vocal (including tone of voice, inflection, and other sounds) and 55% nonverbal. So the chances are that she has already made up her mind about you before you have uttered a single word.

The key things that women find attractive in men are confidence and status, and these are things that you communicate through your body language and dress. If you come across as a confident, high status male (an alpha-male) you can use the corniest of chat up lines and it will still work! As one dating guru put it "If you believe it will work it will!"

The trouble is that most of us are pretty terrified when we approach a beautiful woman and we subconsciously communicate this through our body language. Do you immediately look away when an attractive woman looks at you? Do you wait by the side and watch for ten minutes before approaching? Do you look nervous when approaching instead of smiling? Do you try to pretend you are not watching? If you do any of these, then you are just like the majority of men and you are communicating a lack of confidence long before you walk up to her and deliver your perfectly practiced chat up line.

So don't just practice your chat up line, practice your body language too. Some tips:
  1. Have your chat up lines ready before you enter
  2. Approach straight away (use the 3-second rule)
  3. Smile
  4. Maintain eye contact
  5. Keep your hands out of your pockets
  6. Keep your shoulders back, chest out and head up
  7. Move deliberately slowly (nervous people tend to move quickly and fidget)
  8. Use broad confident gestures
  9. Lean back (it's tempting to lean in to be heard better, but don't do this)
  10. Speak loudly and clearly and deliver that chat up line with confidence!
Even if you are not confident, with a little practice you can emulate it quite successfully. Practice, practice, practice. Note the 3-second rule ... if you don't approach within 3-seconds of seeing someone, then it suddenly becomes ten times harder to approach.

Another good tip is to big yourself up before you enter a room. Give yourself your own little confidence boost. Tell yourself that you are a wonderful, desirable man. Tell yourself that any woman would be lucky to have the pleasure of your company. You are after all a God among men!

The great thing is that this is a virtuous circle ... the more confident you are, the better your chances of successfully chatting up a woman, and the more successful you are at chatting up women, the more confident you will become.

One last tip from a long time expert, the fear of the approach never goes away. Just remember that the naturals you watch are just as scared as you are when they approach a woman, they just do a much better job of hiding it.